FIRST - Take a look at the above. This is Maslow's Hierarchy of Human Needs. It will help you be the best unique and focused individual you can be.

NEXT - Begin at the bottom, if you've got a solid foothold within a category move up to the next tier. Rinse and repeat.

FINALLY - How close are you to the top?

I know many intelligent folks who are endlessly trapped in Safety and Love/Belonging, and so this brings the question - how smart can they really be? Solve your own damn problems first. No one else can fix you. Now you know where to start.