Failing Up

David Cain shares on Thought Catalog that procrastination is not laziness:

For a procrastinator of my kind, perfection (or something negligibly close to it) thereby becomes the only result that allows one to be comfortable with himself. A procrastinator becomes disproportionately motivated by the pain of failure. So when you consider taking anything on, the promise of praise or benefit from doing something right are overshadowed by the (disproportionately greater) threat of getting something wrong.

And (bolded emphasis mine)…

A person who does not have this neurosis might wish they didn’t make a mistake, whereas the neurotic procrastinator perceives the error as being a reflection of their character. In other words, most people suffer mainly the practical consequences of mistakes (such as finishing with a lower grade, or having to redo something) with only minor self-esteem implications, while neurotic procrastinators perceive every mistake they make as being a flaw in them.

This goes back to my beef with Bruce Nussbaum. Why is it okay for people who feel themselves weak to assign emotions to their perceived models of strong?

Failing fucking hurts. It hurts in my soul. To brush off my pain as lesser belittles it. It also makes the magic of my rise that much less spectacular.  Just because you stopped trying, doesn’t allow you to degrade those that haven’t.

Via Hacker News